I was watching an online Bible study clip my sister sent me tonight and it had me in tears within the first few moments. It spoke on the topic of rejection.... Yikes. No one likes the "R" word; yet it forced me to examine that I had allowed unresolved feelings and deep rooted emotions which arose from rejections, both past and present, to go unaddressed within my heart. I would cast aside the brief, albeit sharp, twinge of pain, tuck it away somewhere and well.... more or less pretended like it didn't affect me. I pretended as if I was altogether immune from being rejected. But who can be? None of us. I realized that we have a deep desire as human beings to belong. It is why we choose companionship for life, because we don't want to be by ourselves. This is a natural and healthy desire for the most part until someone comes along and all but dismisses your existence and makes you feel as if you've never mattered. To say the least, people can be at times cruel. I doubt that most people are intentionally trying to bring us down. Some? Maybe, but the majority, probably not. It could be that they simply don't know of that painful occurrence that happened to you as a child or that one hurtful thing that someone said to you as a teenager which to this day stings. The people who reject us don't necessarily know about the residual effects of our past experiences which still linger. Keep in mind when faced with someone you'd regard as cruel, that they too, are more than likely hurting themselves and so you must do your best to forgive them rather than harbor any resentment towards them because that only delays the healing process further.
I believe that Honesty is the best method for healing. Being honest with ourselves that these moments of rejection we've experienced are painful. That father or mother that once called you a disappointment still echoes in your ear. That position you got passed over for which you were more qualified than the other candidate that you still can't seem to get over. That best friend who out of nowhere decided they'd outgrown you and told you they no longer want to be in your life. The scenarios are endless..... The point is, it hurts when people don't love us. I believe God designed us this way so that we don't look to the world for what only The Father can provide. He is Love incarnate. And in The Father, when we express our hurts openly and expose our scars to Him that we attempt to hide from the world, He is more than able to not only heal us but to also provide us with the Love and acceptance our human hearts so desperately seek from other human beings.
Is there anything at all you may be harboring inside that is blocking you from receiving all of the Love God has to offer? Have you told Him everything that is on your heart? If you have not.... take a moment today to do that. Be fully and completely honest with Him, after all, he already knows what is in your heart, and has Loved you despite it this entire time. So how much more then, could you feel the loving embrace of His truth, that you are fully and completely accepted by Him than if you were to humble yourself enough to say to Him...."Abba, it still hurts"? It is more than okay to cry out to a Heavenly Father who understands you better than you ever will yourself. And not to mention: Rejection is something quite familiar to Jesus if you recall;
God answered Samuel, “Go ahead and do what they’re asking. They are not rejecting you. They’ve rejected me as their King." - 1 Samuel 8:7 and "If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first." - John 15:18 and lastly, "Whoever listens to you listens to me; whoever rejects you rejects me; but whoever rejects me rejects Him who sent me." - Luke 10:16
So, you are in good company. Although the world may sometimes reject you, Jesus will be there with open arms, every time, to accept you.
- Brianna Carey ©
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