When we are first attracted to someone, we are really attracted to ourselves. A reflection of us, that we see in them. But as that reflection fades, so does the attraction. Because it was driven by self stimulation and gratification of the ego. So the question then becomes, how does one know when they are truly in love? Unconditional love? Well, I believe it is when the need for stimulation dissipates, and it is replaced with a desire to see them in yourself, without the need to change what you see, back into your reflection in order to love and accept them. It's allowing wholeheartedly for that person to be wholly themselves, and not who you've idealized them to be in order to be deserving of your love.
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